Resiliency is the ability to get back up every time you fall or fail.

Resilience is the cousin of perseverance. I just made that up but I think it to be true.

How do I know?

Wilson and Barrington Irving, the youngest and only African American to fly the world solo.

Me and Barrington, Irving, the youngest and only African American to fly the world solo.

A couple of years ago, I wrote a blog article about Dr. Eric Thomas (ET), one of the top motivational speakers in the world. In my blog post, I wrote about how he had made a significant difference in my life and that I wanted to interview him. I submitted my blog hoping to hear back from them soon. My email said it was sent, but the silence of my inbox proved to me that there wasn’t any correspondence.

I sent my email again and nothing happened. I then decided to get physical.

When something is not working, try something different because you will get different results.

In March of 2016, I attended and spoke at the NAEA National conference in Ponte Vedra Beach, Florida. It is from that conference when I saw a poster of Dr. Eric Thomas that was hosted by the National Drop Out Prevention Center/Network—I was curious to know more. The poster had the conference dates and knowing that ET was going to be one of the keynote speakers incited an invitation to meet him.

I applied to speak at the National Drop Out Prevention Center Conference and I was granted to speak. Now it was between me and my financials, “could I actually afford to go to Detroit?”, I thought to myself. I was fresh out of college with no money but did have college loans, time and skills.

When you want something really bad the “how” finds the “why” to make it happen!

I had to borrow some money and skip my car payment to register for the conference to go see ET. However, the investment was worth it. I had to give up some of the opportunities I already had in order to gain new opportunities.

Meeting ET was like being welcomed into a circle of influence that I had always wanted to create. Not only did I get to meet and see him speak, I also was honored to speak at the same conference ET where he was a keynote speaker!

screen-shot-2016-10-15-at-8-48-47-pmThe good is the good for the goodness it creates. That day, I was interviewed by Ken Nelson, one of the ETA associates. ET featured me into his latest TGIM video! It is a phenomenal opportunity to be part of his movement and the good he does in the world.

I never gave up. Meeting ET was amazing and but the process of meeting him was not all cream and sugar.

Resiliency is what got me to meet and work with ET. I had to make sacrifices to generate a new correspondence.

The world does not always give you cream and sugar for your coffee, sometimes you have to drink it black!

Resiliency is about letting “no become your vitamin” as Les Brown would say. You never know how much you can do until you try. It’s all about testing yourself, testing your limit, testing your results!

In whatever you are trying to achieve, be mindful that the “no way, no how” mentality does not really exist. You have to give it all you got, because the greatest investment bears the greatest results.

The power you have within to create, craft, make and design is silently invisible to the rest of the world. Why give it away to a non-existing force?

Dr. Eric Thomas recently said something that stuck out to me in his interview at the Drop Out Prevention Center conference. He said, “You don’t have to accept the world that is given to you, create your own.”

Some of us are living a lifestyle we would not have chosen if we were on our own. For some people, it is okay. For others, it is not okay. It is not okay to live a life that you curse day in and day out searching for freedom. No one wants to live a life of misery.

It is not okay to live an unfulfilled life, because your past might of have had a little glitch.

For 22 years of my life, with one half of my life living in the refugee camp, I have never woken up and said I can’t wait to be miserable.

For the short time I have been on earth, I haven’t seen one single person who wakes up saying “I can’t wait to be lonely, low, defeated and small.” But it happens to some of us for many different reasons.

Despite the fact that you might currently be going through a storm; despite the fact that the grass might not be greener on your side; despite the fact that things might not be going the way you want them to go; I truly believe you are valuable, unique and matter to the world. You are a creature created to blossom like a flower that is meant to live forever. You and I, my friend, are powerful beyond measure and resiliency is the only way you can find that out.

Resiliency is the best policy. Resiliency says, “to be a failure is not the worst thing, the worse thing is to remain a failure. Now, what are you going to do?”


Born in the small African country, Burundi, Wilson Kubwayo is now an inspirational speaker and talks to diverse audiences about his theme, “Climbing the Walls of Greatness: How to live life to your fullest potential.”